Mukee Okan is a sexual surrogate and practitioner of the Tantra. Here is a link to her website:
Q: For those who don’t know what is Tantra?
A: Tantra can be described as the transformation of consciousness through its exposure to every level of experience. Tantra is based on systematic and precise practices, rather than philosophy. All practices are designed to awaken the inherent shakti, kundalini, the feminine principle. When this force merges with the masculine principle, shiva, an internal explosion and transformation takes place. Kundalini tantra is the study of the patterns of creation to experience the nucleus of your being.
Q: What is the difference between a sexual surrogate and a prostitute?
A: Surrogate partner therapy is a triadic relationship that always includes the therapist, the surrogate and the client. A man or a woman is trained to be a surrogate partner and then becomes an intern first, with supervision. The client alternates sessions between therapist and surrogate. The practical sessions with the surrogate partner are based on sensate body focus practices. Education includes enhancing social and communication skills.
Q: How realistic is the film The Sessions?
A: This film did not represent the current way that a surrogate partner works with a client, including the ongoing supervision provided by a therapist. I felt the representation of the surrogate diminished the work. A surrogate partner would not conduct sessions at such an accelerated pace and gradient. The portrayal of the surrogate lacked the warmth and intimacy of real sessions.
Q: What is the most common problem that people come to you for?
A: Lack of connection to the physical and being in the head.
Q: What are The Chakras?
A: The literal meaning of the Sanskrit word ‘chakra’ is wheel or circle. A chakra is like a vortex or whirlpool of energy. The myriad of chakras in the body are vortices of pranic and psychic energy as well as physiological centers. The chakras span the full spectrum of being from the gross to the subtle. In the practice of tantra only a few principal ones are utilized. The principal chakras are located along the spinal column. If you cut the spinal cord transversely the grey matter resembles the lotus shape and the ascending and descending tracts of nerve fibers corresponds to the nadis. These communicating nerve fibers control the different physiological functions throughout the body.
A chakra is like a centrally place electricity pole from where wires are run to different places, house and streets in the vicinity. They are intermediaries for the transfer and conversion of energy (prana) throughout the different levels of the individual. Each chakra is connected to a silent area of the brain. They each act as switches to these different areas of the brain, nine-tenths of the brain being dormant. With the awakening of kundalini there is an explosion in the brain as the dormant areas begin to wake up. Kundalini can be equated with the awakening of the silent areas of the brain.
The chakras function at different vibrational frequencies, being perceived as vortices of light. The colors vary according to the rate of vibration. Six chakras are directly connected with the higher unillumined brain centers—mooladhara, swadhisthana, manipura, anahata, vishuddhi and ajna. There are two higher centers in the brain. Bindu is the point on the back of the head where oneness first divides itself into many. Sahasrara is the final culmination of kundalini shakti, your full potential. It is the seat of higher awareness. Your sexual energy, as a man, is stored within the first chakra, mooladhara, a point in the perineum. For women the first chakra point is within the anterior point at the entrance to the cervix.
Q: What do you do in an Ecstatic Intimacy Intensive?
A: All programs are individually designed to empower your relationships. The client or couple are guided through the power of relaxation and total receptivity so sex energy can unfold into new ways of being. It is a sensual journey of Awakening, Discovery, Transformation and Evolution. You learn how to generate a new level of positive and rejuvenating energy so this energy naturally overflows into the community to create a loving and sustainable humanity. Each retreat is carefully crafted to support your sexual well-being. Each retreat experience includes simple practical teachings with detailed experiential practices. On completion of each practice we will debrief to integrate your experience and then you are given the next practice to do in your own private space with your partner.
At the end of the retreat you are given specific assignments to take home to keep the journey of discovery alive in your daily life — something special to further and ground your experiences. You will go home with access to generating a new healing power within yourself and your intimate sexual relationships.
Q: What are your qualifications for your job?
A: My training includes —
• Certified Surrogate Partner with IPSA since 1995 (International Professional Surrogates Association based in California, USA)
• Initiation in 1984 by Swami Satyananda Saraswati as Swami Muktananda Saraswati, a traditional Tantric lineage, training and living a yogic lifestyle in the NZ Satyananda Ashram.
• Rites of Passage facilitator for all ages
* Chuluaqui Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality international facilitator
* grandmother: The role of every woman is to birth the God in every man. As a devotee of the Divine Design, I am committed to sharing what works. I love to support your capacity to embrace and harness the power of your sexual energy. My intention is to create a space for what’s possible with the energy of sex, the life force and being at peace with that power. I love to inspire you to open and surrender to your divinely gifted orgasmic nature and infinite capacity for the pleasure of being alive.
Q: What was your most challenging case?
A: Anyone who is long-term on pharmaceutical drugs for depression, anxiety and so on.
Q: What has been your greatest professional triumph?
A: The transformation for a 20 year old man with cerebral palsy. He transformed from depression and unhappiness to happiness, confidence and brightness of the future.
Q: What is the biggest misconception people have about sex?
A: Sex is a sin.
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